My wife and I celebrated our wedding anniversary by going on a very long walk and simply talking. Its something we used to do without consideration when we were dating. But today, it requires scheduling the time and getting a sitter. From the time we leave till we return, it feels like we fill each other in on the details of our lives. I love it.
When I read about Fr. Cutie, I wondered if Catholic priests everywhere feel like they can walk with their heads a little higher. Why? Because he was caught messing around with a sexy woman on the beach and not a young boy. If you are a Catholic priest, this surely came as a relief. Let’s be honest, these have been difficult times for Catholic priests.
And with this scandal comes all the screams for an end to celibacy. If allowing a priest to have sex would cure all of their problems, then why do so many public figures struggle with their own sexual commitments. John Edwards, Bill Clinton, Jesse Jackson, to name a few political leaders could not honor their vow to their spouses. Ms. California could not follow the rules of the contest which forbid her to take nude or semi nude photos. Sure it seems like permitting priests to have sex would resolve their problems, but in truth, it will just create a new set of problems.
I would suggest we think of the priesthood like joining the military, Peace Corp, or Americorp. Specifiically, you sign on for periods of time and then you leave at the end of your contract. And yes, you will be asked to be celibate during that period of time. So if you make that commitment, you go into it knowing that is part of the deal. Let me guess, you’re thinking, how can you ask a guy who has had sex to not have sex for a few years. Between married couples that have grown tired of one another and side effects from medications, I imagine there are more men out there not having sex than we acknowledge.
Who would want to do this? For example, lets say your wife died and you are lonely; or you are single and don’t think you’ll get married; or you were married, had kids, and now you’re divorced, this might sound appealing. Why? A lot of men are lonely. This would give them room and board, meals, community, a positive way to give to others, and a way to show their love and faith in God. And if you offered an ongoing pension after they complete 5 years or more of service, guys would be knocking down doors to get in.
What about priests like Fr. Cutie who started in the seminary at 18? For the seminarian from about 16-30, I would suggest they delay the age they could formally be a priest. And during those “horny as hell” years, I would put the young seminarians in cities like LasVegas. In fact, I would set up locations near some of the legally sanctioned whore houses and strip clubs. This will surely rule out a great majority of the confused young men and likely produce a few very spiritually strong priests.
As you challenge this concept, ask yourself if the current system is working? Moreover if the church refuses to remove the celibacy clause, what are the alternatives?
First, welcome to all the babies born today! It is a very special day for most of us. And you too!! Hopefully in your future, you will wonder why we made such a big fuss over “your birthday.”
Barack Obama, an African American will become our 44th president. What is remarkable about this is? ….well, simply that. Also he may be the first president to be called the “n” word. What is the “N” word?” Never mind. What’s really important is it means any baby-brown, yellow, black, able or disabled, male or female,gay or straight(not sure how many of you know yet about the gay-straight thing) can reallistically strive to be whatever they want to be.
You hopefully won’t understand this, but for most of us, we bought into the idea that only certain people could be President, or part of “his” inner circle. And so we kept nominating and electing the same types of people over and over.
And as you will learn, some have defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. Well this time, we considered different choices and we had different results. And we have a cabinet that reflects options for all of you new borns.
Baby, you really can be whatever you want. So learn from President Obama, and aim for the moon, and shoot for the stars.
From those of us,
who gave up on dreams and settled for status quo.
It is official, Mrs. Robison, Michelle Obama’s mother will move into the
White House. I didn’t know what to think of this until I read the
N. Y. Times story about it.
It appears she is a strong woman with her own opinions on how things
should be. She disagrees with the Obama’s decision to put their kids to
bed at 8:30 p.m. and to limit the amount of television they watch. When
it comes to eating, she likes her fried foood with salt. “If you’re going to
have fried chicken,” she said, “have fried chicken.”
I like her. And I like the way the Obama’s are truly living out the idea of
“family values.” To me, this decision conveys the message that it is
Ok to value our elderly relatives. Too often, our culture is about sending
the elderly away, rather than inviting them into our lives and working
Moreover they are communicating that simply not agreeing with a mother
in law or elderly family member is not reason enough to avoid them. As
the population in this country ages, we need more creative ways to deal
with the elderly, And this intergenerational model may offer us one alternative
to nursing homes.
So cheers, “here’s to you Mrs. Robinson.”
Christmas is overwhelming for me. I experience so much pressure to buy or give, and yet it can feel pretty forced. So the spirit of giving happens spontaneously, it means more to me. So here is my experience of the magic of Christmas.
Last Sunday, it was about -4 degrees in the city. We had been in the house all day. So my wife and oldest son decided to go for a short walk around the block, while I stayed and played with my younger son. Shortly after leaving the house, the door bell rang. It was my wife and son. “We need some muscle to move a car,” she said.
A twenty something year old boy living at a place called, “Artist in Residence” was trying to get his car out of a snow packed parking spot. So we rocked his car, told him not to burn so much rubber, and eventually got him back on the road. It felt like the right thing to do. And I liked that our son experienced the moment.
On Monday, my wife called me at work. “You remember the artist with the skull & crossbones on his car-the one we pushed out of the snow? He left us a box of choclates with a note to the family that went out of its way to help me out.”
It was a complete surprise. To me, it combines the message of Christmas. You give to others with the nothing more than the best of intentions and then you move on. And sometimes, when you least expect it, something good comes back your way.
I laugh every time I see the advertisement for the “snuggie.”I don’t know
if it is the images and voice overs that makes it funny or simply the product.
So when I went to review it on youtube, I was pleasantly surprised to see
a number of paraodies, such as the “the cult of Snuggie.” Also I happened
upon another product, the “Slanket.”
I laughed so hard at the images of this guy at a baseball game with his
“slanket” on. I have no idea whether the “slanket” exists or not. But I love
the name of the product.
So as our nation appears to be falling on hard times, we are seeking some
comfort. However not in the form of a hug from another human being,
but rather in a blanket with sleeves. Hopefully four of them will be waiting
on Pennsylvania Avenune to welcome the President Elect and his family.
The Cult of Snuggie:
I recently saw this advertisement in the New York Time. The head line was,
“How to talk to your kids about drugs if you did drugs. It was a full page
ad sponsored by the Partnersip for a Drug-Free America. You probably
remember the “this is your brain…this is your brain on drugs” campaign.
On balance, I tend to think they offer the best in public health messages.
But this message was unique.
This puts responsibility on the parents to work with their children to
prevent drug and alcohol abuse. One way is to help parents to overcome their
own ambivalence about being confronted with questions about their own
drug and alcohol history. This is in great contrast to prior messages,
that hope children or teens will simply say “no.”
Since the holidays are a time when families come together, it’s also a time
when drug and alcohol abuse tend to increase. Therefore it seems like a
good time to consider having a talk with your kids. And in order to help us do
so, the Partnership for a Drug Free America offers some guidance.
1.) This isn’t about you.
2) Think about how much your kids wants or needs to know. The fact
is we can all say too much.
3) Many experts suggest giving an honest answer or none at all.
4) Avoid giving your child more information than they have asked for.
5) Say what you mean to say, don’t beat around the bush “I don’t want
you to use drugs.”
6) Share what you’ve learned from your experience with drugs.
7) Try connecting around the reasons you might have used, such as,
“I thought I needed to use to fit in..It took me awhile to realize it wasn’t a
8) Everyone makes mistakes, and trying drugs was a mistake I made. I love
you to much to watch you repeat bad decisions I made.
9)I wanted to share my experience with you, because even if drugs didn’t
ruin my life, I’ve seen them ruin other people’s lives.
10) Ask what they think. Keep asking questions and keep listening to
11) Stay Calm. Try not to raise your voice. It’s ok to admit these conversations
aren’t easy for you either.
12) If you’re nervous, don’t put off having the conversation. This isn’t
about your past. It’s about your child’s future.
For more information, go to drugfree.org
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