As I read the NY Times report about Amy Bishop the Harvard PhD accused of killing three colleagues at the University of Alabama in Huntsville,one part of the story stood out. It is the following,” The Boston Globe reported that Dr. Bishop was charged with assault in 2002 after punching a woman in the head at an International House of Pancakes in Peabody, Mass. According to a police report, Dr. Bishop was angry that the woman had taken the last booster seat in the restaurant, which Dr. Bishop wanted for one of her children, The Globe said. It added that Dr. Bishop was sentenced to probation and that prosecutors recommended she take anger management classes, though it is not clear whether she did.” I’m not an authority on these matters, but I feel pretty certain she never made it to anger management class.
When my kids came home yesterday, they screamed out “mom, took us to old mcDonald’s to eat.” Yikes! And then they showed me the happy meal prize. It was a “Kidz Bop” Cd. I’m not an expert on kids music, but I know that label means any descent song will be completely destroyed. And then to my surprise, I heard the beautiful voice of Cobie Callat, singing the opening to “Bubbly.” I took a sigh of relief until I was assaulted with the sound of a bad childrens choir repeating her words after she sang them. It was so horrible, my sons continued to play it over and over just to see me annoyed.
Trust me, the rest of the CD is not worth listening to. In fact, I would listen to ten repetitions of Alvin and the Chipmunks singing Funky Town, before listening to the Kidz Bop version. So imagine my surprise when I heard a lead in for the news, suggesting that parents were not happy with the latest Happy Meal CD.
It appears The Kidz Bop CD No. 6, song 1 is a cover of the song “I Don’t Wanna Be,” originally by Gavin DeGraw. Some jamoks think the guy says “fucking” instead “looking” around. I read this in one of the Hillbilly Newspapers, “When asked if she was concerned about the song being a bad influence, the grandmother said, “If my little grandson is going to go to school and sing it, it’s going to be terrible because if they listen to the CD, they can hear what we hear.”
Let me get this straight, McDonalds is going to put their reputation on the line by having a song for kids with the word, “fucking” on it? You’ve got to be “fucking” Kidzbopping me!
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Unless you are completely oblivious to whats in the popular press, you are already aware of the backlash against Elizabeth Edwards and the uproar over Jon from Jon&Kate plus 8 having an affair with a 23 year old girl. To me, what they both share in common is a need to appear a happy couple, and not knowing how to honestly deal with problems in the marriage. While the men are responsible for their actions, I guarantee you these couple got off track for whatever reasons, and neither the husbands or the wives wanted to face up to the difficulties. And probably hoped they’d go away in time. And if we’re honest with ourselves, all couples have had moments, weeks, months, maybe years, where you either go towards the problems or face one or the other spouse entangled in something outside of the marriage. Therefore I’d like to propose marriage term limits.
I believe couples should enter marriage not till death do us part, but until one year later. So one year after the marriage you have to go before a judge, priest or legal body and re-commit to the marriage for 2 years. The short term goal would be to make to the five year mark. When you reach that, I think it is reasonable to be able to choose either1, 2, 3, 4, or5 year increments. And during each of those meetings, you can establish incentives like they do with pro-athletes. For example, you sign on to one year, but if you both go to counseling for 6 months, pay off your debts, and take one vacation, you can increase the commitment to 3 years!
Even as I write this, I love the idea. It suggests that marriage has value beyond the legal implications that come with an accumulation or dissolution of assets. It also allows couple a chance to really ask themselves if they want to be in the marriage. So couples that are on the brink of divorce can decide to go ahead with it or get help. For those who can’t be direct, go ahead, act it out by having an affair or getting drunk every night, your spouse can go on with their life knowing there is a very definitive end in site. Before you point whats wrong with idea, just try it on. Shouldn’t we place a higher priority on the “sanctity of marriage” ? Since we know so many people get married in their twenties and then divorce, why not create a way to help them become more conscious of what they are committing to by recommitting.
Since this is an idea in progress, I don’t know about the kids. I would guess the terms of any agreements made about kids would have to be a significant part of the decision to renew or not renew the marriage license. And I personally think some variation of pre-nups would be reasonable at the beginning and perhaps throughout the marriage. Again a couple that is in sync can work with this whether the money or inherited assets are in one name or the other. If
As more gay couples move towards some form of marraige, perhaps they will lead the way on new models of being together. Because as Jon&Kate and John and Elizabeth and 50% of married couples have shown us, somethings got to change.
First, welcome to all the babies born today! It is a very special day for most of us. And you too!! Hopefully in your future, you will wonder why we made such a big fuss over “your birthday.”
Barack Obama, an African American will become our 44th president. What is remarkable about this is? ….well, simply that. Also he may be the first president to be called the “n” word. What is the “N” word?” Never mind. What’s really important is it means any baby-brown, yellow, black, able or disabled, male or female,gay or straight(not sure how many of you know yet about the gay-straight thing) can reallistically strive to be whatever they want to be.
You hopefully won’t understand this, but for most of us, we bought into the idea that only certain people could be President, or part of “his” inner circle. And so we kept nominating and electing the same types of people over and over.
And as you will learn, some have defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. Well this time, we considered different choices and we had different results. And we have a cabinet that reflects options for all of you new borns.
Baby, you really can be whatever you want. So learn from President Obama, and aim for the moon, and shoot for the stars.
From those of us,
who gave up on dreams and settled for status quo.
It is official, Mrs. Robison, Michelle Obama’s mother will move into the
White House. I didn’t know what to think of this until I read the
N. Y. Times story about it.
It appears she is a strong woman with her own opinions on how things
should be. She disagrees with the Obama’s decision to put their kids to
bed at 8:30 p.m. and to limit the amount of television they watch. When
it comes to eating, she likes her fried foood with salt. “If you’re going to
have fried chicken,” she said, “have fried chicken.”
I like her. And I like the way the Obama’s are truly living out the idea of
“family values.” To me, this decision conveys the message that it is
Ok to value our elderly relatives. Too often, our culture is about sending
the elderly away, rather than inviting them into our lives and working
Moreover they are communicating that simply not agreeing with a mother
in law or elderly family member is not reason enough to avoid them. As
the population in this country ages, we need more creative ways to deal
with the elderly, And this intergenerational model may offer us one alternative
to nursing homes.
So cheers, “here’s to you Mrs. Robinson.”
I read an article about New Years resolutions today. Its usually the same content the papers have every year about peoples desire to lose weight and stop smoking. In fact, it is so redundant, they could print the same article every year and I doubt anyone would notice the difference.
So I thought to myself, why not simplify this, and come up with one small goal that most of us could achieve- An apology-amends-an I’m sorry to one person in your life.
For those of you, who don’t have much experience doing this, let me explain. Identify someone you believe you have hurt with your words or actions, seek them out, and either write, email, call, or talk in person to them. Simply state the following, “I’m sorry for___________.
Some of you are probably saying, “but he/she did this to me…will they apologize for what they did….It”s not fair that I have to…what if they tell me what I lousy person I am and pile it on because I owned up to being at fault…will this be an admission of guilt? Blah, Blah, Blaah, Blah. Bullsh5$@^t!
Don’t complicate this. Just find a friend, lover, colleague, family member, store clerk-anyone you believe deserves an apology from you because of something you said or did. But what if I can’t come up with anyone? How will I know if I owe an apology? Here are some examples.
Did you lie, yell, blame, judge, criticize, shame, steal, mistreat physically, verbally, or emotionally, effect another person in a way that made them feel like a bad person? If the answer is yes, apologize. Ok, you want more specific examples.
If you yelled at your kid and he freaked out; If you called your significant other names; If you blamed someone else at work for your mistake- If you come up with ideas, then attempt to justify it as not really being something worthy of an apology-then it qualifies for an apology.
I believe it is an attainable goal for the new year. I’d like to hear examples of what others might apologize for.
Christmas is overwhelming for me. I experience so much pressure to buy or give, and yet it can feel pretty forced. So the spirit of giving happens spontaneously, it means more to me. So here is my experience of the magic of Christmas.
Last Sunday, it was about -4 degrees in the city. We had been in the house all day. So my wife and oldest son decided to go for a short walk around the block, while I stayed and played with my younger son. Shortly after leaving the house, the door bell rang. It was my wife and son. “We need some muscle to move a car,” she said.
A twenty something year old boy living at a place called, “Artist in Residence” was trying to get his car out of a snow packed parking spot. So we rocked his car, told him not to burn so much rubber, and eventually got him back on the road. It felt like the right thing to do. And I liked that our son experienced the moment.
On Monday, my wife called me at work. “You remember the artist with the skull & crossbones on his car-the one we pushed out of the snow? He left us a box of choclates with a note to the family that went out of its way to help me out.”
It was a complete surprise. To me, it combines the message of Christmas. You give to others with the nothing more than the best of intentions and then you move on. And sometimes, when you least expect it, something good comes back your way.