Many years ago, I remember my wife revealing an inside secret about women and their friendships. She informed me that from a pretty early age, girls can be pretty mean to one another, but it is done in a more indirect way than guys. It made for an interesting dialogue, but I just didn’t get it. And then “Mean Girls” came out and this seemed to validate her observations. But since then, I haven’t run across to many more articles or movies addressing the issue, until yesterday.
In the Sunday NY Times, there was an article entitled, “Backlash: Women Bullying Women at Work.” According to this article, “a good 40 percent of bullies are women. And at least the male bullies take an egalitarian approach, mowing down men and women pretty much in equal measure. The women appear to prefer their own kind, choosing other women as targets more than 70 percent of the time.” I guess while our society was obsessed with boys and men, the women were secretly doing some serious smack-down to one another.
Joel H. Neuman, a researcher at the State University of New York at New Paltz, says that “bullying involves verbal or psychological forms of aggressive (hostile) behavior that persists for six months or longer. For instance, over the last 12 months, have you regularly: been glared at in a hostile manner, been given the silent treatment, been treated in a rude or disrespectful manner, or had others fail to deny false rumors about you? If you can actually glare or give the silent treatment for six months or longer, you should also get your props-that is not easy to do.
The Workplace Bullying Institute says that 37 percent of workers have been bullied. If you are like me, at this point, you are just surprised to learn there is actually a place called, ” The Workplace Bullying Institute.” I can’t let a name like that slip by. My mind thinks about the children of parents working there. “hey Joe, where does your dad, work?” “huh?” ” I said where does your dad work, moron?!” “The Workplace Bullying Institute.” “Hey everybody, Joes dad works at the workplace bullying institute-that’s hilarious!”
So while the Bullying Institute may help adults in the work place, it may also be creating a new breed of bully’s and victims in the school yard. Read the whole article, 10women.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&sq=women%20bullies&st=cse&scp=1#