Today is Ry’s last Friday in Kindergarten room A. He was moving at an amazingly slow speed today, so it was inevitable we were going to be late. I also didn’t feel like pushing him to get ready. I was practicing an approach used in alanon called “detachment with love.” The idea is that I pull back and let him feel the consequences of taking his time and missing the all important play lot time. It was easier for me to do it today because I was moving pretty slow myself.
As we drove to school, and listened to “Kung Fu Fighting and Little Willy Won’t Go Home,” I wondered how much it really matters if he gets a “pink slip.” Funny, I hadn’t actually made the connection before this moment to getting the “pink slip,” in a job. What exactly are we to learn from tardiness? Do they still use the word, “tardy?” Somehow it sounds like their should be a more politically correct term?
I understand its a problem if a child is chronically late. I should say if a child is repeatedly late, then there is a problem with the parents. As I write, I think my problem is that I am responding to this experience from my childhood memories of being late for Catholic school. It seemed like such a big deal, and I was rarely late. But I know many people who were and I have to wonder how much that impacted their lives as adults. Someone please help me understand the importance of tracking tardiness?